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Posted: October 25, 2009 in Uncategorized

>Almost 24 hours ago I sat across from a woman at dinner that continues to captivate me without her even knowing it. There is no presumption on her part. She is only herself and has never tried to be another someone. She is the quintessential version of what I never knew I always wanted. She doesn’t know that I sometimes just watch her mouth when she speaks. Her eyes, always sincere, add more to her words (which need no assistance) but assist them all the more. She makes me smile. She is the gift from God to the man I wish I always was. She sees my flaws and yet loves still. She sees my quarks and yes, laughs. She sees my pain and endures with me.

She takes my breath and heart away…and I bid them adieu for I am a better man with them in her possession.

She is my wife.

>He’s Already Been There….

Posted: October 14, 2009 in Uncategorized

>Have you ever felt like your life was two steps away from greatness as well as two steps away from all of the wheels coming off the train at the same time? I tend to feel this way often. Before you diagnose me as being “Manic Depressive” let me explain.

Depending on the circumstances in my marriage, family, friendships and ministry; I really can end up feeling a wide range of emotions. As the victories and losses of our lives ebb and flow we can all find ourselves overcome with the feelings of excitement and euphoria to the depths of anxiety and grief. It is vital that we make the truth of God’s word our compass; a fixed “True North” for our souls. Without it our emotions can spin out of control and it can lead us to make erratic decisions as well allow us to go to some very dark places in our hearts and minds.

Quick Question: Did you know that God is not restricted by time?

“He is the Alpha and Omega, The Beginning and The End”. He sees and knows all things. He knows our thoughts and words even before we speak them. He has already been to the end of your situation. He’s seen the outcome. There are no surprises for God. Bottom Line: We can take comfort in knowing that our ‘future’ that seems at times so scary and daunting for us; is already God’s present. He’s already been there and got the t-shirt.

Trust Him,


>A Glass of Water…..

Posted: August 2, 2009 in Uncategorized

>This afternoon my doorbell rang. I answered the door with some annoyance, knowing that it was most likely a salesman. It was. His name was Rob. He was a 20 year old exchange student from the U.K. selling children’s educational books. He asked if he could come in and share with me what he was selling. I told him “No thank you”as I began to shut the door. I immediately felt led by the Lord to open my door and to let him in. I said, “You know what? Why don’t you come in after all.” Rob grabbed his bag and came inside. I asked him to sit at my dining room table. “Can I get you some water?”, I asked. He said, “Sure, That would be great.” I went into the kitchen where my wife was studying. She asked who it was and I told her, I don’t know, I just felt like I was supposed to invite him in.
I went back into the dining room to give Rob his water to find him crying. He said, “I don’t know why I’m crying.” I said, “It’s OK…….Rob, I’m a pastor and I felt like I was supposed to ask you in. Can I pray for you?” For the next hour I had the wonderful privilege of sharing the gospel with Rob. He was incredibly receptive and I could feel the presence of the Lord with us as we spoke. I believe I had the opportunity to not only share my faith through verbally expressing but through practical kindness as well. There was a seed planted today that I’m praying someone else will water and reap. After a couple of glasses of water later our time together concluded. As he was leaving I encouraged him to drop me a line on Facebook and that I would be praying for him.

Bottom Line: We must allow for life interruptions so that we can embrace the joy of sharing our faith in word AND deed.

Are you Thirsty,


>Suffering a Good Thing?

Posted: July 14, 2009 in Uncategorized

>Found myself in a beautifully tragic place in my prayer time today. Felt on the verge of tears as I was moved by the book of Hebrews in the Bible. There is a passage in the book that points to our loving God that disciplines us through suffering:
Heb 12:7-11

7 It is for discipline that you endure; God deals with you as with sons; for what son is there whom his father does not discipline? 8 But if you are without discipline, of which all have become partakers, then you are illegitimate children and not sons. 9 Furthermore, we had earthly fathers to discipline us, and we respected them; shall we not much rather be subject to the Father of spirits, and live? 10 For they disciplined us for a short time as seemed best to them, but He disciplines us for our good, so that we may share His holiness. 11 All discipline for the moment seems not to be joyful, but sorrowful; yet to those who have been trained by it, afterwards it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness.

This is not a politically correct passage even in Christian circles. I don’t know how many times I have heard a preacher say, “God wants His people to be in total victory in this life: Health, finances, relationships.” The irony is that Jesus lived day to day financially, had tons of strained relationships, and was murdered. It’s not because Jesus didn’t have a positive attitude or didn’t have enough faith. If Jesus Christ suffered and we are called to follow him, why do we try so hard to avoid it in America.

That victory that Christ has given to us through his death and Resurrection is COMPLETE victory over death and gives us eternal life. Not only can we endure any tragedy or hardship through God’s power but we can find ourselves more like Christ on the other side.

Embrace it,


>As a parent you have an innate desire to keep your children from any harm. Sometimes that’s not possible. Yesterday my boys and I were walking into our neighborhood pool clubhouse. As we entered the pool area my son Ethan (5) saw a boy that looked like his age. Ethan is naturally very friendly and promptly introduced himself, “Hi, I’m Ethan. What’s your name?”. The boy rejected Ethan with equal effort, “I don’t care what your name is.” The look on my son’s face was heart breaking. I wanted to bring that kid correction and tell him, “Hey, my son Rocks! You should care.” The reality is in life this won’t be the last time my son will make an effort in a relationship and not be met half way.

It’s natural to be frustrated with people that aren’t “trying” or “investing” as much as we are in a relationship. Nothing hurts more than affection that’s not mutual on any level. In the past I use to think that if I just show that person how much I care, how much I’ll sacrifice, they’ll finally see what a great person I am. I put so much energy into winning people that didn’t want to be won. Scripture states, that “in as much as it is with you, live at peace with all men.” That means we are called to do all that we can do. Bottom Line: We can’t change others, that’s God’s job. We’re not Him.

Believe it,


>Battery Wanted….

Posted: June 16, 2009 in Uncategorized

>Let’s say “hypothetically” I walked outside this morning and noticed the my drivers door was slightly open. And let’s say it naturally didn’t surprise me when my car wouldn’t start (battery is dead right?). After grabbing some jumper cables from a neighbor (that I woke up) I opened the hood to find that my battery was not dead in fact I’m sure it was alive and well SOMEWHERE else. That’s right boys and girls someone stole my car battery in the middle of the night. Ok…so it’s not a hypothetical, it’s reality. STINK!

With that in mind I’d like to ask a question. Are you living off of someone else’s spiritual battery (experience)? Do you mooch off of other people for spiritual and emotional support all the time? If so, you need to know that Christ wants a personal relationship with you, not a religious one. He doesn’t want you living vicariously through other people. Is your life compass spinning? Do you feel like you don’t know where to turn? I encourage you to stop striving by calling one more person or trying that “next” book. Have your own authentic experience with God.

Get Started,


>Decision Making….

Posted: June 14, 2009 in Uncategorized

>Bad Decisions many times are like bananas they come in bunches. So it’s no surprise in looking back over the last 5 years of my life I can see a pattern of one bad decision after another in my relationships, my career, my spiritual life, etc. It has caused me to put some consistant measures in place to reduce their frequency. Here’s what I’ve done:

1. Committed to pray about major decisions until I feel a secure “peace”. If that peace doesn’t come, it’s a no-go.

2. Committed to completely hear out my wife’s counsel. Her intuition is undeniable.

3. Committed to run all major decisions by a select group of men. Scripture states that we should, “Walk with the wise.”

4. Committed to never make major decisions when exhausted and/or depressed.

For me these principles have already made an impact on myself and my family when making life changing choices. Bottom line: Our decisions in life don’t just effect ourselves alone….why make decisions that way?

Time to Decide,


>Stressed Out

Posted: June 4, 2009 in Uncategorized

>Stressed out. That’s how I’ve felt this week. This underlying tension that is in my chest and in the pit of my stomach. It’s pervasive in my thinking. When I get this stressed out I begin to get stressed about things I NEVER been worried about. It’s like a cancer spreading quickly into every category of my life: personal and work. When I realize that I’ve been taken over by this emotion, I many times come to the understanding that I haven’t spent any time in prayer and I’m trying to do it all in my own strength. I start to withdrawal from people. I become incredibly irritable and I also begin to make poor choices along the way. In the midst of a schedule and a task list that is unrelenting I must…..Stop. Do whatever it takes to stop for a moment and pray not for the sake of finding “inner strength”, but to be reminded that you can’t do any of this on your own. Bottom line: Stress can be regulated by prayer.



>Pet Peeve Alert…..

Posted: May 29, 2009 in Uncategorized

>Pet Peeve Alert: People that don’t do what they “say” they are going to do. I know what your thinking……”I can’t stand that as well.” No one likes someone that’s a flake (you know someone you can’t really count on what they say they are going to do.) Here is a personal confession though, I didn’t learn this lesson until about 7 years ago. I was so motivated by pleasing people that I couldn’t say “no” and would spread myself out too thin. I’d over commit myself and could not meet deadlines. People would get frustrated and I would just give excuses. I had to learn to set real expectations. Allow yourself some wiggle room. Don’t paint yourself into a corner. It’s much better to say no upfront if you can’t do it then to say yes and disappoint someone after the fact. Bottom Line: Under Promise and Over deliver.

Keep Your Word,


>The Right Stuff

Posted: May 26, 2009 in Uncategorized

>I was a solid “C” student in college. Don’t ask about High School. I said don’t ask. Graduate school is going much better because I see the value in what I’m learning. Recently you might have heard the educational phrase “teach to test”. This is when school systems teach ultimately for kids to pass an upcoming test (State wide educational exams). The argument against this methodology is that it robs students of having a well rounded education and only focuses on a few fundamentals. The students might score well but something is lost in the process. The deeper thought behind “teaching to the test” is that the end justifies the means.

Maybe in your life you have some things that are “turning out well” but the way you are getting there is all wrong. No one else knows it, but you do. Maybe your skating by on talent and charisma or maybe you’ve just gotten so “tunnel visioned” on results and started caring less about “people”. It’s not just about doing the right thing. It’s about doing the right thing for the right reasons.

Make it Right,