5 Steps to Dealing With Failure

Posted: August 29, 2011 in Failure

My life is a testimony of God being able to take a failure–apply his grace and mercy–and make something useful for His glory. God loves to use people that have fallen short because He gets the credit! Here are a few key points to remember when you’ve blown it:

1. Own. Before you can confess your sin, you must take responsibility for your failure with God and others. Sincere confession can only come out of true ownership of our mistake. No blame shifting…..own it and confess it. (1 John 1:9)

2. Receive. Honor God’s grace and mercy by receiving His forgiveness. Your mistake is not the one sin that is the exception to the cross. Your “sin has been thrown as far as the east is to the west.” (Ps. 103:12) To not forgive yourself is not noble, it’s pride. Your standard is not higher than God’s.

3. Evaluate. Some mistakes are a no-brainer and need little evaluation. It’s clear what broke down. Other instances need our evaluation to see how we can grow in wisdom and not make the same mistake. Many people have experiences but do not grow in wisdom because they do not reflect.

4. Release: Stop collecting your failures like trophies. Stop revisiting them. You’ve been forgiven. There is no probation period with God’s grace. Your failure is not final unless you choose to stay there. Let go of your past and fixate on Jesus.

5. Press On: Not just forward in life, but press on toward Jesus, becoming the man or woman God’s called you to be! (Phil 3:13-14)

Take a moment to share below what God’s taught you in regards to walking out of failure.


  1. Mik Sivak says:

    In the past few years, I have come to realize that if you hold on to the failures in your past, they can often act as weights, hindering you from reaching the successes of today and tomorrow. It creates a negative self-esteem/ self-worth, whatever you want to call it, and causes you to believe lies about yourself that just aren’t true. For me, it destroyed my confidence, and, on more than one occasion, has thrown me into a funk/anxiety that keeps me from pro-actively seeking out the things I know I’m called to do. Thoughts of doom and “never being good enough” have run through my mind. Of course later I realize that those are lies of the enemy, trying to distract me from stepping into God’s perfect plan.

    From my years selling books door to door for the Southwestern Company (one year in NC, actually), I learned to deal with slamming doors on a daily basis. When you have 30-50 people reject you in a single day, and all you can do is think about how well you did last summer, and how horrible you’re doing now, you have to learn that your sales territory has more doors than you could possibly knock on for an entire summer. So what’s the use in moping about one failed sale, or one slammed door? Quickly move to the next! There’s no reason to ruin the rest of your day because you failed in the first half. However, it’s also important to periodically review your performance and ask yourself…”how can I be better this week?”, then focus on one manageable improvement every day, until you slowly see the success you were hoping for.

    At the end of the day, I try to remember that God could not possibly love me any more than he does right now.

    • Nathan Rouse says:

      Great to hear from you Mik! What a great example of being resilient after experiencing set backs!

      Failure isn’t final unless we choose to not move forward.

      Love you Mik!


      Sent from my iPhone

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